In this episode, Katie talks about why kids save their worst
behavior for their parents and what you can do in those
My oldest son had just come home from a playdate with his Memaw. As
my mom dropped him off, she beamed at how good he was. He was
polite and chipper and chatty. They played, did arts and crafts,
and went out for lunch. It was the perfect day and my boy had been
So you can imagine my surprise when he started running and
screaming and having a meltdown. My mom stared in disbelief and
said, "Wow. He was so good today."
I knew what was happening, though. I had seen it before.
syndrome. What gives? I want to be greeted with kisses and
hugs - not meltdowns!
But here's the thing: being good is exhausting
Being good and following the rules and listening to the adults is
hard work. Exhausting work. It takes so much energy for young kids
to be "on their best behavior" that when they come home, they are
just over it.
And my son hit the nail on the head. I set him on his bed, thinking
that some quiet time with a book or a cuddle could recharge his
mood. I asked him, "What's wrong? Why did you spiral out of
His answer made my jaw drop: "I'm all behaved out. Being good was
hard work and I'm really tired."
Of course, it was.
So I tucked my little guy in and he got some very needed
Three things to know about why kids reserve their worst behavior
If, at first, it hurts yours feelings that your son or daughter
saves all their best behavior for others and then unleashes the
dragon on you, fear not. Here's some helpful info to remember.
Does your child behave well for others and save the crazy stuff for
you? What do you do? How do you make the transition easier for your
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